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Banned from Grandma's Funeral

January 22nd, 2011 at 08:21 am

Today is my grandmother's funeral but the kicker is that I am not allowed to attend because I'm pregnant.

I know it sounds ridiculous, but it's a Chinese tradition that pregnant women are not supposed to attend funerals, cemeteries, etc to protect the unborn baby. My husband can't even be a pallbearer because of it. There are probably other superstitions that are connected to it too.

Although I don't believe in the superstitions, I have to respect them.

When my grandmother was sick in the hospital, before she passed, I was told not to go visit her, in fear that I might catch an illness that may affect the baby. But once I found out her condition got worse, I went anyway.

And I'm glad I did. Because two days later, she passed away in her sleep, in the hospital, at the ripe old age of 91.

I was really upset when I was told I couldn't go to the funeral, but I know my grandmother would not have wanted me to go. Such is life.

She left this world knowing that her great grandchild was going to be born. And she even left my baby a gift.

I'll miss her dearly.

6 Responses to “Banned from Grandma's Funeral”

  1. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    I'm so sorry for your loss. Glad you really did go see her before she died, though.

  2. rob62521 Says:

    A part of your grandmother will live on in you...sharing memories with your little one will continue those good thoughts.

  3. miclason Says:

    sorry about your loss. If your grandmother believed in that, even if you donīt, try to think of not attending as your parting gift to her, the knowledge that her great grandchild is safe. ((hugs))

  4. Thrifty Ray Says:

    I am sorry about your loss of your grandma. If there has to be superstitions, having one in the best interest of an unborn baby seems like a good reason for it. Take care of yourself- Im sure your grandma was very proud of you.

  5. Miz Pat Says:

    Perhaps you can do something to honor your Grandmother that won't go against tradition like having a memorial service or making a family memory book.

    I'm so sorry you couldn't be there for the funeral.

  6. Fanny Says:

    Thank you for your kind messages!

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